To properly discuss fear I need to first explain how I understand the way we work. We are all guided by our subconscious; it guides us to what we really want. The subconscious is a very powerful thing, it can make us do just about anything.
The subconscious absorbs what the conscious is thinking. For years we have been told that the only way to be successful is to get good marks in school, get a good degree then find a “good” job, invest in mutual funds, buy a house, get a dog, marry a pretty woman, have kids and retire. Now because we have been told to do this by just about everyone we have ever met our whole life it becomes part of our subconscious and we start striving for this dream and this dream is the rat race. It becomes our context. I am not saying that there is anything wrong with it at all, just that this has become the norm, and more and more people are thinking this way.
Fear is what is keeping us all back from making the changes we want to make. It stops us from making a success of ourselves. Why did you never take that business opportunity? FEAR…
We need to reprogram our subconscious to align with our goals / what we really want. At present most of use think that there is only one way to make it in life. But with a little reading and research you see that the rat race is a path to failure. Failure in the way that we never really live our own life, the reason we are here on planet earth is to challenge ourselves, learn and develop. To see what I mean you just have to look at the world’s richest and most successful people, Bill Gates, Richard Branson, Richard Kyrosaki, Warren Buffet (to name a few) were never fooled into the rat race. They might have had a job, but it was purely meant for the learning experience.
Fear is an emotion that is deeply routed in our subconscious, therefore each of us will fear different things depending on what we have been taught to think. If we can change the way our subconscious thinks we can change the way we feel fear. Eventually getting to the point where we don’t even feel irrational fear anymore.
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Fear of failure is the cause of most real failure.
When i relinquish my fear of failure, I almost always end up with success instead.
Hey craig.
I think what you and Dave have had to say on 'fear' is very insightful.
The rat race exists in so much as it is a conceptual creation of our own. However,recognising this social construct sor what it is enables a progression to 'choosing' a path other than the rat race. If you can only see one path then there is less choice and one is less free to exercise the thing called choice.
I think that we are all free to make such any given choice to a limited degree. I think that the fear factor, amongst other factors, plays a limiting role for us all. Assuming the existence of the rat race, the other path and the role that fear has to play, it follows that if one desires to enhance ones ability to be a free and become less determined by external causes, then a good place to start is by rejecting all irrational fears.
So how do we ascertain whether a fear is legitimate or just plain irrational? This fear may be related to choosing between shares. It may be related to choosing between ones temporary country of residence. Or more simply, whether or not try something new and step into a bikram Yoga or boxing studio studio for the first time. Fear has many forms. Well, in response I think one has to be rational. One must use reason to disentangle fear. If an action is scary, but we recognise that it can be argued for AND against, Then we at least realise that we should be afraid of taking an action AND not taking that very same action.
Reason elucidates what the stakes REALLY are. We realise that there are costs associated with taking any given action but that remaining in ones comfort zone (choosing to not-act) is a choice and has costs too.
Fear of failure is the cause of some failure. but more profoundly, using reason to understand all our fears is proably safer than simply throwing caution to the wind and letting the chips fall as they may. Fear is real. sometimes it is your friend. Sometimes it is your enemy. Know your enemies and your friends well!
This helps alot everytime im doubting my movements here. Thanks for the insight Craig!
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